It’s a crazy time with the Coronavirus infiltrating our lives. I’m sure you’ve heard more than you’d like to know about the virus and how it’s affecting our country, our homes and families, schools, activities, government, and work. But are people talking about how it’s affecting us emotionally and relationally?
I’ve been so impressed with how people have rallied in our country and made some big decisions in a short amount of time with creative ideas to manage these new issues. People really are kind and thoughtful of others and many are eager to help in whatever way they can.
So now what? This is just a friendly reminder to NOT NEGLECT YOURSELF. Now is the time to take care of yourself, manage emotions and be patient with yourself and in your relationships.
I’ve felt very anxious for many days now and feeling unsure how to manage life, work, and family. And I'm also thinking about you and hope you’re doing well. My thoughts have been with those of you who are struggling with anxiety, depression, unhealthy or abusive relationships, addictions, and other concerns. It can exacerbate the problems when we're stuck at home or have little control over our lives.
Like me, many of you are feeling anxious…anxious about germs, fear of what’s to come, fear of being cooped up. Or perhaps you've been feeling angry, especially when you lack control of your life, or live with someone who is very challenging, and for many of you with kids - having to be their teacher. Others may experience impatience, resistance, irritation, and it goes on and on.
To look on the bright side, we may find time to spend with our loved ones and connect in ways that we haven’t been able to connect. We may get some projects done that we’ve been wanting to get accomplished.
I know that when our emotions are high, it's difficult to think. So I've put together a few ideas to make the best of this situation:
Pray and talk to God (He's with us in all this)
Join a Bible Study
Put a structure to your day and your children's day (one way to take control and relieve anxiety)
Help your neighbor and think about others rather than yourself (get them groceries, talk to them on the phone, ask if they need a meal)
Make a meal for a child or family who may not have much
Take it one day at a time (repeating this over and over)Journal (get the feelings out of you)
Exercise/Walk (take a neighbor with you...or their dog)
Meditate or do devotions
Schedule time to talk with friends and grandkids by phone or Skype
Find creative ways to exercise
Have a heart-to-heart conversation with a loved one
Schedule time with your therapist for a “Tele-therapy” appointment online
I’d love to hear your ideas.
Write to me and let me know what coping strategies you’ve come up with.
With your permission, I'll send another newsletter out with your ideas!
Email me at Peg@spiritofhopecc.com.
We’re in this together ... Let’s figure this out together.
My prayers to you for good health and patience :)
Peg Roberts, LMFT
PS - Don't forget about my workbook
Work on issues of codependency during this time.
You can order it on my website Reclaimingyourlostsoul.com